There is no such thing as a perfect relationship

Admit it, no matter how hard you try to make it perfect things can really get rough along the way. It doesn’t really boil down to compatibility. No matter how compatible two people are they can still end up in an abyss of conflicts and arguments. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. There is always a mar, whether a permanent or temporary one, in whatever kind of relationship. If two people always agree on each other, then one of them is useless. There will always be arguments, misunderstandings, and conflicts that will determine the foundation of a relationship. These things are the external forces that will either strengthen or destroy a bond. It is external because it’s beyond our control. What is internal is how we deal with it when it occurs; dealing with these forces is within our control. These are not signs if a relationship is right or not but rather, these are filters that separate the real long-term relationship from the fling type. While there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, there is such a thing as a strong relationship.

Charter change - another phony

Done with the “rice crisis”, and the verdict? The “rice crisis” won by a unanimous decision, after Lozada’s troop was badly beaten and seemingly forgotten from history, the result was clear. It was an exceptional diversionary tactic by The Arroyo administration. And now that the people are beginning to realize that the crisis was just a phony, what will GMA do? Of course, fire another bullet to the heart of the NBN issue and Lozada and company’s clamor for truth. So here comes Cha-cha (another weapon of mass distraction), which will, once again, divert the issue of her credibility to continue in command as the President of the Philippines. But with all due respect to the President and her followers, this could be purely coincidental. You decide…    

my fiance; how we met

“It all started when I was about to give up” is a very famous line we hear especially from people who’ve finally found the love they’ve been looking for ‘since time immemorial’ (Ching let me borrow your favorite phrase). I, myself, will use this line – although in a different concept – to tell my own story of finding my kindred spirit.

It all started when I was about to give up (not in love) with my stay in Today’s Carolinian. I can still remember that heated exchange of words between me and the editor in chief and how she told me to just quit if my system can’t absorb the principle of the paper. Sensing that she was just trying to psyche me up, I also played hard balls with her, with my stubbornness ready to take off and run full speed. But that wasn’t the only thing I can remember that day, in fact, it is merely a flash of memory. The most vivid memory I have for that day is the face that caught my eye when I was about to leave that room and quit writing for TC. It felt like heaven opened its door for me and she was the angel to usher me. And that is what I call destiny.

That’s how I first met Ching. I know I was a proud person.  With my ego doubling the size of my head, there’s no way I’m going back to that room. But her presence completely caught me off guard that I forgot everything about my pride and about what I just fought with my editor. I was back in the room, smiling, looking at her, trying to interview her just to be able to have a conversation. I watched her intently as she answers every question thrown at her but I wasn’t hearing anything. I was lost in her eyes, the way they dance with her beautiful smile and her hair, with such a subtle curl, covering her cheek with just a few strands. The only words I can remember I heard during that very private moment I had with my thoughts were those of my friend telling me that she’s beautiful and it’s very obvious that I like her. It’s true, I fell on my knees the first time I saw her (and I still do every time I see her). That very day changed my whole life, she changed my whole life. I left my batch mates to be with her. I befriend her friends; I went to with a lot of new faces just to have a glance of her and hoping I’d be close to her. My world did spin so fast and before I knew it I was already caught in the maze of love. And believe you me, it took me 4 years to get through that maze and finally found love… with her.

dEliciOusly Coffee

So it’s early morning, and you have to wake up for work or for whatever task that you have to do for the day. You freshen up, you ate your breakfast, and – let me guess – sip a cup of coffee. You just can’t start the day without that distinct aroma of a bittersweet cup of coffee can’t you?

     Maybe I’m speaking for myself, or maybe I’m not. (more…)